“Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart.”
If I believe in anything, I believe most in the sharing of truth. Truth in experiences, in emotions, and in word.
This moral high road, it seems, has lead me into the DM’s of boys on a few occasions, letting them know how great I think they are and how great we’d be together.
Inevitably met with rejection, I felt like these propositions had taken me farther away from my classic romcom ending and closer to periods of fiercely avoiding eye contact on my college campus.
Although, once I got over my initial embarrassment, I felt incredibly empowered by my honesty and boldness.
I didn’t even know these boys terribly well and yet I was able to be upfront with any sort of feelings I had.
I was more afraid of missing an opportunity than not receiving mutual affection.
Having the mindset that I have nothing to lose and everything to gain is such a key factor in how I’ve built confidence in who I am and in the way I carry myself in this world.
If I can be honest with strangers with my affection towards them, then I must be as bold in sharing endless affection towards myself.
You can lose nothing by being kind to yourself.
No matter how much I want my Meg Ryan and Julia Roberts moments, if I waited around for the “perfect” people to suddenly realize how great I am, I’d never realize it for myself.
I’m not waiting on these boys to write me back so I can receive the love letters I’ve been wanting. I have to be the one to do it.
This Valentine’s Day, I want you to write yourself the love letter you know you deserve to receive and the one you need to hear.
Tell yourself how you love how strong and beautiful your body is, how you can light up a room with a single smile, how your friends trust you deeply with their secrets, and how the world is a much better place with you in it. Write all that and more.
Add stickers, doodles, pictures, and of course hearts. Grab an envelope and write your name carefully and with hearts over the i’s. Act like you are sending this to the great love of your life, because you are.
Washington Irving was right, the love you give comes back to you in the best ways, if not from others than from yourself.
Happy Valentine’s Day my loves.
Note: I’d love to see and share these letters, so please slide into my DMs on Instagram @fleur.de.Lillie with your love letters. I can keep them anonymous if you wish. I’ll be sharing them on Valentine’s Day, Feb. 14th.